In case any of my followers were questioning being taken advantage of/sexually assaulted/raped. There is no grey area.
Though I have no doubt all of you beautiful people out there already understand this, it doesn’t hurt to help spread the word.
Some of this is bullshit. If someone convinces you to have sex, it’s still consent.
If you say yes but you didn’t mean it, it’s still consent. If you say yes and regret it later, it’s still consent. If you say yes and change your mind but don’t say anything, it’s still consent.
If two drunk people decide to have sex together, it’s consent.
Rape is a horrible thing, but I’m seriously fed up with the ever-expanding definition of “rape” tumblr seems to glorify.
No, stop right there. If you convince someone to have sex with you by pestering, then their consent was not willingly, or freely given. If they are so drunk they can’t hold themselves up, then it is not informed consent, if they are drunk enough to not know what they are doing, it’s not consent. If they wouldn’t normally consent to something, but are drunk and doing so, it’s not consent. To be honest, I will admit to this one being the most moveable of any reason why it isn’t consent because drunk sex with my girlfriend is amazing but she never takes consent as already given, no matter how drunk we are.
If someone changes their mind partway through, you fucking stop because otherwise it’s fucking rape. If they don’t communicate things to you then they might well be at fault unless they feel like saying no to you would cause them harm. That’s why you verbally check in with people! That’s why you ask if they’re okay! That’s why you double check if they know the safeword and want to use it!
Seriously if you genuinely believe some of the bullshit you just spouted, can you please unfollow me because I’m not putting up with any toxic ass attitudes.